This morning, my husband and I were talking about what we used to eat for breakfast before our healthy lifestyle change. We both had to think hard as it was about 2-3 years ago and breakfast isn’t something that you remember. This made me think about how we started our healthier lifestyle and how it might help other people who are trying to start a healthier lifestyle, but might think they’re being held back. I had no idea back in 2014 the journey we would be on when my husband, Rob, started his bodybuilding prep.
As a couple, we liked spending times with friends socially drinking on the weekends and some week nights depending on what celebration was going on (ie Thirsty Thursday LOL). We went out to dinner regularly, ordered pizza and just ate whatever we wanted. We were in the “gain weight” phase of our relationship. Both of us hit the most we’ve ever weighed and were getting married at the end of the year. Rob decided, after we were watching Pumping Iron and drinking very large margaritas, that if those guys could get on stage and compete in a bodybuilding competition, then he could too. Jump forward to July 2014, Rob started working with a prep coach so he could do a show May 2015, as we were getting married September 2014. Yes, he had about a 10 month prep. So two months before our wedding, Rob decided to do a complete lifestyle change for himself. Ladies, you can only imagine how I felt, to top it off we had a wedding to go to out of town end of July and a local wedding in August, and then ours in September. I was not a happy camper as now Rob needed to eat 6-7 times a day, protein/carbs/veggies/healthy fats, on a set schedule that did not revolve around weddings. I know how I felt, but I asked Rob what kept him motivated to do this lifestyle knowing I was freaking out and that he had so many things planned already. His response
“I had a goal that I wanted to achieve and there will never be a good time to start. There will always be this holiday or that party or those weddings. You just have to jump in and do it if you’re determined.”
So that’s what he did. Although, it wasn’t easy. We had numerous fights about him bringing food to inappropriate places, having to explain to people that we can’t go somewhere because Rob’s dieting for a show or we need to leave a party early because Rob has leg day. The bodybuilding lifestyle IS NOT EASY for either of us, as I was stubborn and didn’t want to change and Rob was going through a whole lifestyle change with someone pushing him down. So how did we make it through this and get were we are today.
We are where we’re at today because of something Rob said and this is really really childish and funny looking back… His words to me, “I’m the bodybuilder in the house.” He said this when I wanted to heat up some of my food in the microwave first. He thought because he was on a set schedule of when to eat and he was the bodybuilder, that he could heat his food up first. Yes, super childish and really funny (ok, so he said it more than just once)… but that one sentence motivated me to jump on the bandwagon and prep for a show to prove he wasn’t the only bodybuilder in the house.
How does this long story relate to you? If you live with someone who doesn’t share your passion for living a healthier lifestyle and you feel they are holding you back, don’t let them. Not in a negative way, but stay focused on your goal. Like Rob, the more he focused on his goal and didn’t let anything get in his way, the more I realized how important it was to him and let him live out his dream. Did I have to accommodate to some annoying things? Yes, but in a relationship, you’re there to help support your other half. It wasn’t the end of the world that my husband was trying to make himself healthier. It does take some sacrificing, but it’s sacrificing the less healthylifestyle that will help us live better and longer lives together (where we both look awesome too…. (-; ).
I hope this helps. Just remember that you have a goal, focus on it and stick with it, your other half will see that dedication and maybe tag along.