Rest Day- Confidence in the Gym


Today I am taking a rest day. Two days on, one day off, two days on, two days off is how I’m going to do the first 2 weeks of this program. As I continue to get into routine, I will put another day in for the program.

Since I am not working out today, I wanted to talk about confidence in the gym. I grew up going to the gym, be it a public gym or a school gym, I enjoyed going. I want to help people who did not grow up in the gym gain confidence going into the whole gym, not just the cardio section. This is going to be a real list, not just a “have confidence in yourself and move on”.

One recommendation would be to have your workout planned ahead. This saves you time and confusion when you’re at the gym. Know what exercises you’re planning on doing so you know what kind of equipment you need when you get there. And have a backup plan to just about all exercises because the equipment or machine you need could be taken. If you look like you don’t know where you’re going or what you’re doing we start to lack confidence and just give up. So have a plan!

Another recommendation if you don’t want to draw the wrong attention on yourself and avoid getting the equipment gross would be to dress appropriately. Yes, we are women hear me roar, but don’t wear the shortest shorts you own, the short and tightest shirt you own and not expect to have people look at you or try to talk to you. You’re at the gym, unless that’s the only kind of clothes you feel super comfortable working out in, I would suggest getting something that covers most of your legs and most of your back. This is helpful because a lot of benches and machines are gross and skin to bench when sweaty is nasty! I typically wear a racer back tank top and crop pants and I always have a gym towel with me to put on the bench.

As this states below, if you do you in the gym, no one will care what you’re doing. Some people think everyone is watching them in the room. Yes, it’s possible right when you walk in they might, but then everyone goes about their own way and so should you. Just being in the gym can be an awesome accomplishment! Don’t let anyone ruin that for you! You are there for a reason and so are they. Get your workout in and move on!




675f46444cedacf8577cb46babf60f21We all go through moments of feeling super confident!  We wake up and feel like we can rock anything in our wardrobe, we go to the gym and rock every PR and feel amazing when we leave and then go out at night and feel even more confident and fantastic!

These are good days, days everyone should have more of!


Then there are days where you wake up feeling like nothing will look good on you, you’re feeling bloated and gross, your hair won’t do what you want it to do, you put on whatever because it won’t matter, nothing will look good.  These are the days we need less of.  This is how I have been feeling this week.  I worked out and felt awesome, but came home and looked in the mirror and had one of those blah feelings, like I don’t look like I feel….

What does that mean?  How am I supposed to look?  Isn’t that up to me?  Well it’s supposed to be and it is, but these days when you think too much about what other people perceive of you are the days when I don’t know what I’m supposed to look like.  I talk a big game of working out all the time, eating moderately healthy, but then I look in the mirror and think… this isn’t what people expect to see.  They don’t want to see someone who’s muscles aren’t as visible as they were before when this blog started, they don’t want to see someone who’s hips just keep getting wider regardless of what I do (besides insane dieting), and who’s stomach may seem flat, but keeps getting wider.   Where do these standards come from in my head?  They come from the lack of confidence I feel that probably relate to hormones (thanks hormones, you suck).  I catch myself following people on instagram who are both in super condition (ready for a show or keep posting pictures from when they did a bodybuilding show or photoshoot) and people who train like I do and look normal.   The normal ones are the pages that bring me back down to earth.  I’m not supposed to constantly have a six pack, nor am I supposed to feel fantastic 24/7 (if you feel fantastic 24/7 please give me your secret).  I just have to work on getting out of this mental block of feeling down on myself.  Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.  I hope this helps you if you’re in a funk like I am.